When the Graduation Caps Come Off: Why Young Adults Drift and How the Church Can Keep the Door Open

Every May and June, I watch the same scene play out in churches across the country. Graduates in caps and gowns are honored from the pulpit, prayed over, handed a Bible or a gift card, and applauded by a sanctuary full of people who love them. It is a beautiful moment. Then, by October, many of those same young people are nowhere to be found.

If you have pastored for any length of time, you know this story. You may be living it as a parent, a grandparent, or a Sunday school teacher who poured years into a kid who now rarely darkens the church door. The quiet exodus after high school is one of the most painful realities in the modern church, and it deserves more than hand-wringing or finger-pointing. It deserves honesty, humility, and a plan.

Why the Drift Happens

Graduation is not just the end of high school. It is the end of the structure that held a young person’s life together. The parents who woke them for church, the youth group that was built into their weekly schedule, and the friends who sat in the same row all disappear at once. Almost overnight, faith goes from something they were carried into to something they must choose on their own.

At the same time, they are juggling a new job, a dorm room or first apartment, a class schedule, or a military deployment. Sunday morning becomes the only day to sleep in. A college professor or coworker asks a hard question about suffering, science, or Scripture, and the answers they received as children suddenly feel thin. Some drift out of exhaustion. Some drift out of doubt. Some drift because no one ever helped them see why the faith of their parents could become their own.

Most of the time, it is not a dramatic rejection of God. It is a slow fade. They miss one Sunday, then three, then a season, and eventually the church becomes a place they used to go.

Where the Church Must Take Responsibility

It would be easy to place the entire burden on the young adult, but that would not be honest. Sometimes the church has failed them, and we should say so plainly.

Some churches have treated youth ministry as entertainment, offering pizza and games but little Scripture, so students graduate with a love for the fellowship hall and no foundation beneath it. Some have answered honest questions with shame or a quick “just have faith.” Some have made the faith feel like a list of rules, or a political tribe, rather than a living relationship with Christ. And some young people have never been truly known by the adults in the building. They were a face in the crowd, so no one noticed when they left.

And then there is the hardest truth. Some young people have been hurt by the church itself, through spiritual abuse, manipulative leadership, or sexual abuse that was ignored, minimized, or covered up to protect a reputation. When a young person has been wounded by those who were supposed to shepherd them, walking away is not rebellion. Often it is self-protection. We must never ask the wounded to simply return to the place that harmed them. We owe them repentance, accountability, and the kind of safe church that takes such wounds seriously. Jesus reserved his strongest words for those who cause the little ones to stumble, and we should tremble at that.

Keeping the Doors Open

The goal is not to trap young adults in the pew. It is to make the church a place they can always come home to, and a place that walks with them while they are away. A few practical ways to do that:

  • Start before graduation. Build relationships between students and older members of the church long before senior year, so the connection does not depend on the youth group.
  • Make room for hard questions. Let them doubt out loud in a safe setting. A faith that has been tested in a small group is sturdier than one that was never allowed to be questioned.
  • Give them real roles. Invite young adults to serve, teach, run the sound booth, or sit on a committee. People stay where they are needed, not just where they are entertained.
  • Stay in touch when they leave. Send a text, a care package, or a note when they head off to college or the military. A simple “we’re praying for you and saving your seat” can mean more than we realize.
  • Connect them where they land. Help them find a campus ministry or a church near their new school or job, and call that pastor yourself if you can.
  • Keep the welcome mat out. When they come home for Christmas or a summer, greet them like family, not like a project. No guilt trip, no interrogation.

How Christians Should Respond to Those Who Drift

When someone we love drifts, our instinct is often anxiety, and anxiety tends to come out as pressure, lectures, or silence. Scripture gives us a better pattern. Look at the father in the story of the prodigal son. He did not chase his son down the road, and he did not pretend the son had never left. He let him go, kept watching the horizon, and when the boy was still a long way off, he ran to meet him. There was no “I told you so” in that embrace.

That is the posture of the church toward the wandering. We pray faithfully. We keep loving them in ordinary ways, through birthday texts, shared meals, and showing up when life gets hard. We listen more than we speak, and when we do speak, we do so with gentleness, remembering that Paul urged us to restore others in a spirit of gentleness. We refuse to treat their absence as a scandal to gossip about, and we never make them the subject of a prayer request that is really a complaint.

Most of all, we remember that we are not the Holy Spirit. We can plant and water, but God gives the growth.

Three Things to Consider

If you are in a church and wondering how to help those who have drifted, here are three things worth carrying with you.

  1. Listen before you try to fix. Ask a drifting young adult what happened, and then truly hear the answer. You may uncover a wound, a doubt, or a season of exhaustion that no sermon could have addressed. Understanding their story is the first step toward being any help at all.
  2. Be a friend, not a recruiter. If every conversation circles back to “when are you coming back to church?”, they will start avoiding you. Love them with no strings attached, and let the relationship be about them, not your attendance numbers. Trust built over coffee does more than any invitation card.
  3. Play the long game and keep praying. Faith journeys are rarely tidy. Many who wander in their twenties return in their thirties, often when they marry, have children, or hit a crisis. Be the person they remember as kind and steady when they are ready to come back, and keep praying even when you see no change.

A Closing Word

The young person who has drifted is not a lost cause, and neither is the church that has stumbled in caring for them. God is far more committed to bringing his children home than we are, and he often uses ordinary, faithful people to leave the porch light on.

So this week, think of one young adult who has slipped away from your church or your family. Pray for them by name. Send a short, no-pressure message. And ask the Lord to make your church a place where they would be glad to return. The door is still open, and so is the Father’s.

Something more to ponder,
Grace & Peace
-Pastor Scott.

Holding On When the Ground Keeps Moving

There’s a moment most of us know. You’re in a conversation, maybe at work, maybe around a table with people you love, and the talk turns. Something you’ve believed your whole life, something you’ve built your life around, gets treated as quaint. Outdated. Maybe even dangerous. And you feel it in your chest before you can even name it: the pressure to nod along with everyone else, the pull to sort of soften the edges, the slippery slide to just let the moment pass – unchallenged.

Nobody told you that following Jesus would sometimes feel like standing in a river while the current pulls the stones out from under your feet.

Because let’s be honest about something. It’s not new. We like to imagine our moment is uniquely hard, that no generation before us has ever faced such confusion, such speed, such pressure. But open up the Bible and you find people standing in rivers all the way down.

The Furnace Is Older Than Us

I just preached on this recently, but take Daniel, a teenager (probably) dragged from his home to Babylon, the superpower of its day. The empire didn’t just conquer his city. It renamed him. Gave him new language, new literature, new menu, new identity. What strikes me about Daniel 1 is how ordinary the pressure is. Nobody holds a blade to his throat. They just give him a new name, a new reading list, a seat at the king’s table. And that’s usually how it happens for us, too right? It happens subtly, slowly, politely, one small adjustment at a time. (Do you remember how you cook a frog? You don’t throw old Kermit into a pot of boiling water – he’ll just jump out – no, you slowly dial up the heat until Frog legs taste like chicken!)

And yet “Daniel resolved not to defile himself” (Daniel 1:8). Notice the word resolved. Literally, he set it in his heart. Before the pressure peaked, before the lions, before the crisis, he had already decided who he belonged to.

Then there are his three friends, standing before a furnace and a golden statue and a crowd bowing in unison. Imagine that scene. Thousands of people, music playing, everyone folding at the waist. And three men just… standing. Not rebellious for rebellion’s sake. Not angry. Just rooted.

Here’s what gets me about their answer to the king: “If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us… but even if he does not… we will not serve your gods” (Daniel 3:17-18).

But even if he does not.

That’s the whole thing, isn’t it? Faith that only works when God does what we want isn’t faith. It’s a transaction. These three (my Veggietales age is showing – Rack, Shack and Benny) – these guys had something deeper. They trusted who God is, not just what God might do for them.

So here’s the first question, and I’d invite you to sit with it for a minute before moving on:

#1 – Do I trust God enough to stand even if the outcome isn’t what I’m hoping for?

The Crowd Is Not a Compass

There’s a strange gravity to the majority. When everyone around you is moving in one direction, your nervous system treats it like information. They can’t all be wrong, can they?

Well. Yes. They can.

The Israelites watched Moses disappear up a mountain, and within weeks the whole camp had melted their jewelry into a calf (Exodus 32). These were people who had just watched the sea split. Just weeks removed from the greatest rescue in their history, and they caved. Not because they hated God, but because the waiting was uncomfortable and everyone else was doing it.

Paul saw this pattern and gave us one of the most quietly radical sentences in the New Testament: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2). Some translations say it this way: don’t let the world squeeze you into its mold.

Squeeze. That’s the right word. Conformity usually isn’t a dramatic decision. It’s pressure, steady and constant, until one day you realize you’ve been shaped into something you never chose to be.

And notice that Paul doesn’t say, “Resist the world by building a wall.” He says be transformed. The alternative to being squeezed isn’t becoming rigid. It’s becoming alive. Something inside you that keeps growing, keeps being renewed, keeps drinking from a deeper well than the headlines.

Which raises the second question:

#2 What is shaping me more: the voice of Christ, or the voice of the crowd?

Be honest. Look at your screen time. Look at what you read, what you watch, who you listen to, what you rehearse in your head at 2 a.m. Whatever gets the most of your attention is doing the most to shape you. That’s not shame. It’s just physics.

Stubborn Isn’t the Same as Faithful

Now we have to say something that might sting a little.

Standing firm doesn’t mean being obnoxious. It doesn’t mean winning arguments or posting the perfect rebuttal or treating every person who disagrees with you as an enemy to be defeated. Some of us have confused loud with faithful, and the world has noticed.

Peter, who knew a thing or two about both courage and failure, wrote to Christians who were being squeezed hard. His counsel? “Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect” (1 Peter 3:15).

The reason for the hope. Not the reason for the rules, not the reason for the culture war. The hope.

Jesus himself was immovable and tender at the same time. He didn’t water down the truth, and he didn’t use it as a club. He sat with the woman at the well and spoke honestly about her life, and she ran back to town saying, “Come, see a man who told me everything I ever did” (John 4:29). She didn’t feel crushed. She felt seen.

That’s the posture. Grounded enough that you don’t need to panic, and gracious enough that people feel safe near you. When your faith is secure, you don’t have to be defensive. Defensiveness is what fear looks like when it puts on a suit.

And Jesus told us plainly it wouldn’t be easy: “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33). Both halves matter. The trouble is real. So is the victory.

You’re Not the First, and You’re Not Alone

If you’re tired, here’s something to hold onto. Hebrews 11 gives us that long roll call of the faithful, and then chapter 12 opens with a breathtaking image: “Since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders… and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us” (Hebrews 12:1).

A cloud of witnesses. Not a jury. Not critics in the stands. Witnesses, people who know what it costs, who ran their leg and are now cheering you on. The ones who stood in the furnace. The ones who were laughed at in the marketplace. The ones who kept going when it didn’t make sense.

And then the verse that anchors the whole thing: “fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith” (Hebrews 12:2).

Fix your eyes. Not on the shifting culture, not on the anxious commentary, not even on your own performance. On Jesus. The pioneer, the one who went first and made the way. The perfecter, the one who finishes what he starts, including in you.

You don’t hold on by white-knuckling it. You hold on because you are held. Jesus said, “No one can snatch them out of my hand” (John 10:28). The grip that matters most isn’t yours.

Which brings us to the third question:

#3 If Jesus is really who he says he is, what would it look like to build my life on that, fully, quietly, without apology?

Not perfectly. Not loudly. Just fully.

The Challenge

So here’s where I want to leave you.

This week, I want you to choose one place where you’ve been quietly drifting. Maybe it’s a conviction you’ve stopped mentioning. Maybe it’s a practice, prayer, Scripture, Sabbath, gathering with other believers, that slipped when life got busy. Maybe it’s a conversation you’ve been avoiding because you were afraid of how it might land.

Name it. Write it down. And then do one concrete thing about it before Sunday.

Read Daniel 3 out loud, slowly, and let yourself stand in that crowd. Reach out to one person who can walk with you, because Scripture never imagines faith as a solo project. Spend ten minutes in silence asking God one simple question: Where have I been bowing when I should have been standing?

And then, whatever happens, hold onto this: the God who walked in the fire with those three men is the same God who walks with you.

The culture will keep changing. It always has. But the One you follow is “the same yesterday and today and forever” (Hebrews 13:8).

Stand. Not stiffly, not angrily. Just rooted.

The river is moving, but you’re not alone in it.
Something more to ponder today!

Peace!
-Pastor Scott.

Calling on the Burnt-Out Pastor…

The email chimes at 11:32 PM.

Then again at 5:45 AM.

There is a budget gap to close, a sermon to craft that somehow needs to be both deeply theological and intensely practical, a marriage in the congregation falling apart, and a committee meeting about the color of the lobby chairs.

And somewhere in the middle of all that noise, a quiet, heavy question starts to whisper in the back of a pastor’s mind:

How much longer can I keep this up?

If you’ve asked that question recently, you aren’t alone. Not even close. We talk a lot about “the calling.” We talk about the joy of ministry, the beauty of transformation, the sacred privilege of standing with people in their highest highs and lowest lows. And all of that is real. It’s beautiful.

But there’s another reality we don’t talk about nearly enough. It’s the dry, hollow feeling of running on fumes. It’s pastoral burnout. And if we want to thrive—not just survive, but truly live into the life God has for us—we have to look this thing right in the face.

The Weight of the Invisible Backpack

Why does this happen? Why do so many gifted, deeply committed leaders find themselves stressed out, apathetic and possibly staring at the ceiling at 2:00 AM, wondering if they should just go manage a hardware store?

It usually boils down to a few hidden realities:

  • The Boundless Role: What is a pastor, exactly? A CEO? A therapist? A public speaker? A mediator? A spiritual guru? Because the job description is essentially infinite, the expectations become impossible. When you are expected to be everything to everyone, you end up feeling like nothing to anyone.
  • The Compounding Emotional Load: Pastors carry things. You sit with a family in a hospital room as they say goodbye, and then you walk down the hall, adjust your tie, and walk into a joyful baby dedication. That emotional whiplash takes a toll. If you don’t process that weight, it stores itself in your body, your mind, and your spirit.
  • The Illusion of the “24/7” Saint: There is this subtle, dangerous cultural myth that because you work for God, your boundaries don’t apply. So we look at a text message on a Saturday night and think, Well, shepherds don’t abandon the sheep. So we answer. And piece by piece, our private life is swallowed up by the public role.

The Ancient Pattern of the Desert

This isn’t a new problem. It’s a human problem.

Think about Elijah. In 1 Kings 18, he experiences this massive, spectacular spiritual victory on Mount Carmel. It’s the peak of his ministry. Fire from heaven. Total vindication.

And then, exactly one chapter later in 1 Kings 19, a threat comes from Jezebel, and what does Elijah do? He runs. He goes out into the wilderness, sits under a solitary broom tree, and basically tells God, “I’ve had enough. Take my life. I am no better than my ancestors.”

Look at that trajectory. From the mountain peak to total, crushing despair in a matter of verses.

What’s fascinating is how God responds to Elijah’s burnout. God doesn’t give him a theological lecture. He doesn’t tell him to pray harder or accuse him of a lack of faith.

God gives him a loaf of bread, some water, and tells him to take a nap. Twice.

God addresses Elijah’s humanity before He addresses his ministry. Because God remembers what we so easily forget: we are dust. We are creatures with limits.

Even Jesus—the literal embodiment of the Divine—constantly stepped away. The Gospels are filled with phrases like, “He withdrew to a lonely place.” Jesus looked at massive, hurting crowds with infinite needs, and sometimes he just got in a boat and rowed away. If Jesus needed to walk away from the crowd to preserve his connection to the Father, what makes us think we can just push through?

Creating Your Safeguards

So, how do we shift the rhythm? How do we build a life in ministry that is sustainable, vibrant, and deeply rooted? It requires intentional, sometimes radical, boundaries.

1. Reclaim the Gift of “No” Every time you say “yes” to something you don’t actually have the capacity for, you are saying a functional “no” to your health, your spouse, your kids, or your own spiritual life. “No” is not a failure of love; it is a declaration of stewardship over the finite life God gave you.

2. Separate the “Identity” from the “Function” You are a human being who happens to serve as a pastor. You are not “The Pastor” who happens to be a human being. Your worth, your belovedness, and your identity were completely secure before you ever picked up a microphone or sat in a board meeting. When the church becomes your identity, its failures become your existential crisis. Give yourself permission to just be Scott—a child of God, loved exactly as you are.

3. Practice Radical Sabbath Sabbath isn’t just a day off to catch up on errands. It’s a subversive theological act. It is a 24-hour period where you stop producing, stop managing, and stop fixing. You do things simply because they bring joy, rest, and life. Turn off the phone. Leave the email alone. Walk, read fiction, lift weights, work in the yard—do whatever makes your soul feel alive, and let the universe run without you for a day. Trust that God can handle the church while you sleep.

The Invitation

Ministry is a marathon, not a sprint. But it’s hard to run a marathon when you’re carrying a backpack full of rocks you were never meant to carry.

If you are feeling the burn today, hear this: it is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign that you are human. God is not disappointed in your exhaustion. He’s inviting you to the broom tree. He’s inviting you to rest, to eat, to breathe, and to remember that the weight of the world is on His shoulders—not yours.

Take a breath. Step back. The light is still shining, and you are deeply loved.

A Kingdom of Equals: Reimagining Leadership in the Wake of the SBC Decision…

The landscape of American evangelicalism shifted noticeably when the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) voted overwhelmingly to advance a constitutional amendment—the “Truth and Unity” amendment—banning member churches from affirming, appointing, or endorsing women in any pastoral or preaching role. To many outside and inside the denomination, it felt like a door slamming shut. Frankly, I shouldn’t care about the SBC nor their decision to continue to contextualize scripture and follow erroneous convictions, but I just can’t stay out of commenting on this topic – so here goes:

It’s easy to react with anger or to write off the SBC as hopelessly out of touch (because I have). But if we want to change hearts, we have to approach this conversation with kindness, understanding why our brothers and sisters in the SBC made this choice, while firmly pointing to a more beautiful, expansive, and historically accurate biblical reality.

The SBC’s decision stems from a desire to remain faithful to what they believe the Bible teaches about “complementarianism”—the view that men and women have equal value but distinct, gender-defined roles, reserving church authority for men. While we can respect their desire for biblical fidelity, as egalitarian believers (which I am), we have to gently but clearly say: we believe they have fundamentally misread both the text and the heart of the New Testament.

The Freedom of Grace: A Wesleyan-Arminian Perspective

As those shaped by a Wesleyan-Arminian theological heritage, we view scripture through a lens of radical grace and spiritual transformation. John Wesley himself realized that when the Holy Spirit pours out gifts upon a person, human structures must get out of the way. Wesley famously gave space for women like Sarah Crosby and Mary Bosquet to preach because he recognized the “extraordinary call” of God on their lives.

In the Wesleyan tradition, salvation and ministry are governed by the Holy Spirit’s empowerment, not by rigid, structural determinism(aka legalism). If God, in His sovereign grace, chooses to equip and call a woman to preach, who are we to stand in the way of the harvest?

The New Testament is Teeming with Women Leaders

The argument that women shouldn’t lead or preach often relies on pulling a few complex verses from Paul’s letters—written to specific churches dealing with localized chaos—and turning them into universal, timeless laws. But when you look at the macro-narrative of the New Testament, a completely different picture emerges.

The early church wasn’t a boys’ club; it was an absolute explosion of co-ed leadership:

  • Phoebe was a deacon of the church in Cenchreae and trusted by Paul to deliver (and likely read and explain) the monumental Epistle to the Romans.
  • Junia is explicitly commended by Paul as “outstanding among the apostles.”
  • Priscilla worked alongside her husband Aquila as an equal partner, and together they corrected and taught the brilliant male evangelist Apollos.

To say the Bible forbids women from teaching men requires overlooking the very women Paul trusted to build the global church.

Ben Witherington III and the Greco-Roman Reality

As I write this, I have to quote one of my favorite modern biblical scholars Ben Witherington III when he said, ““A text without a context is just a pretext for whatever you want it to mean.”

To understand why a male-dominated church view is an incorrect reading of scripture, we can lean into the brilliant work of New Testament scholar Dr. Ben Witherington III. Dr. Witherington often reminds us that we must look at what the text meant to its original audience before deciding what it means for us today.

In the ancient Greco-Roman and Jewish worlds, women were largely treated as property, barred from education, and deemed legally untrustworthy. Into this intensely patriarchal culture stepped Jesus, who shattered every social norm. He allowed women to sit at His feet as official disciples (a radical act at the time), and He chose women to be the very first witnesses and heralds of the Resurrection.

As Dr. Witherington brilliantly points out, gender roles might shape our biological families, but in the church—the family of faith—our roles are determined by the spiritual gifts given by the Holy Spirit. The New Testament was never meant to baptize ancient patriarchal structures; it was meant to subvert them. When modern denominations enshrine male-only leadership, they aren’t protecting ancient biblical truth—they are accidentally protecting ancient cultural biases.

Moving Forward in Love

A male-dominated view of the church diminishes the body of Christ. It effectively benches half of the workforce, half of its servant leaders at a time when the world desperately needs to hear the Gospel. We can disagree with the SBC deeply and passionately, but let’s do so by embodying the very grace and mutuality we read about in the text.

The Holy Spirit cannot be institutionalized, and the call of God on a woman’s life cannot be voted away by a committee. The things that man organize and establish without the guidance and leadership of the Holy Spirit will never last, nor thrive. So again, let me say this clearly again for the ones in the back: “The Holy Spirit cannot be institutionalized, and the call of God on a woman’s life CANNOT be voted away by a committee.

The future of the global church belongs to every single believer who answers the call to say, “Here am I, Lord. Send me.”

Questions for Reflection:

  1. If the first person commissioned by Jesus to preach the news of the Resurrection was a woman (Mary Magdalene), how does that shape our understanding of who is allowed to proclaim the Gospel today?
  2. In our own local church communities, are we structuring leadership based on institutional tradition, or are we actively identifying and unleashing the spiritual gifts of all believers, regardless of gender?

To dive deeper into the historical and cultural realities of the first-century church, you can watch Ben Witherington III’s lecture on Women and Their Roles in the New Testament, which provides an incredible, faith-affirming look at how radically inclusive Jesus and the early church truly were.

Something more to ponder,
Grace & Peace
-Pastor Scott.

Running on Lukewarm Coffee: Grace for the Long Middle

Hey everyone, let’s talk about something we all go through but rarely enjoy: the middle.

You know exactly what I mean. The middle is that awkward, sometimes exhausting space between starting a journey and actually arriving. It’s the long stretch of highway where the adrenaline of the departure has completely worn off, but the destination is still nowhere in sight.

Think about the start of any grand adventure. The beginning is always fueled by vision, fresh energy, and an upbeat playlist. You are running on the sheer, intoxicating excitement of stepping out in faith. The end of the journey is just as compelling, fueled by pure anticipation. You can finally see the finish line, the relief is palpable, and the promise of rest gives you a sudden, miraculous second wind.

But the middle? The middle is mile 400 of an 800-mile road trip. The coffee is lukewarm, the scenery has blurred into a monotonous gray, and the silence in the car is no longer peaceful—it’s just heavy. The beginning simply requires a leap of faith, and the finish line just asks for a final sprint. But the middle requires grit. It demands relentless endurance and a stubborn refusal to quit when the excitement fades.

This “middle space” isn’t just about road trips, though. It creeps into every significant aspect of our daily lives and our spiritual walks. It’s month three of trying to build a new habit, where the initial motivation is completely gone but the life-changing results haven’t shown up yet. It’s the second year of launching a ministry or a business, where the launch-day applause has faded and you are left staring at the unglamorous, daily grind. We feel it in the hard, sanctifying work of marriage or parenting when the honeymoon phase is a distant memory, but the deep, quiet comfort of a fifty-year anniversary is still decades away.

And we certainly feel it in our faith. It’s that agonizing silence between praying a desperate, tear-soaked prayer and actually seeing God’s hand move in our lives.

It is right here, in this messy middle, where the enemy of our souls loves to pull up a chair and plant seeds of doubt. The middle is incredibly vulnerable. Without the hype of the start or the reward of the finish, our minds start to wander. This is the exact spot where we start asking dangerous, anxiety-ridden questions. We wonder if we actually heard God correctly, or if we just made the whole thing up in our heads. We start agonizing over whether taking that leap of faith was a massive mistake, and we question if it’s even worth it to keep putting one foot in front of the other.

If you are feeling the heavy, unglamorous weight of the middle today, I want you to know that your exhaustion is entirely valid. Feeling tired here doesn’t mean your faith is broken, and it certainly doesn’t mean you’ve taken a wrong turn or that God has abandoned you. It simply means you are in the crucible of endurance—the exact place where your spiritual muscle is built.

In our spiritual lives, the middle is often where we do the most growing, but let’s be honest—it’s also where we do the most groaning. Think about the Israelites for a second. The parting of the Red Sea was a miraculous, thrilling beginning, and the Promised Land was a glorious finish line. But the wilderness? That was a long, dusty, frustrating middle.

Maybe you’re in a “middle” season right now. You’re praying for a breakthrough in your health, your family, your career, or your peace of mind. You know God is faithful, but frankly, you’re just really tired of sitting in the waiting room.

Here is the encouragement I want to leave you with today: God does some of His most profound, beautiful work in the messy middle. The waiting isn’t a waste; it’s a workshop. He is actively shaping your character, deepening your reliance on His strength, and preparing your heart to carry the weight of the blessing that’s coming.

When the middle gets overwhelming, remember that you don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to stay tethered to the One who holds it all together. Take a deep breath today. He hasn’t forgotten you, and He isn’t finished yet. I hope that you find encouragement in this truth today!

Before you close this tab and step back into your day, I’d love for you to grapple with these two questions:

  1. Where in your life are you currently rushing the process instead of trusting the Maker?
  2. If you viewed your current waiting season as a “workshop” rather than a “delay,” how would that change the way you walk through it today?

Something more to ponder today.
-Grace & Peace
Pastor Scott.

The Sacred Art of Being Right Here

(and avoiding the trappings of this fast-paced life)

You’re probably busy right now.

Maybe you’re reading this on your phone while waiting in line at the grocery store.

Or maybe you’ve got a dozen tabs open on your browser, and this is just one of them.

We live a lot of our lives on the way to somewhere else.

The next meeting.

The next weekend.

The next phase of life.

“Once the kids are finally in school…”
“Once I get through this busy season at work…”
“Once things just settle down…”

We have a tendency to treat the present moment like it’s a waiting room.

Just a beige, sterile lobby we have to sit in until the real thing happens. Until our name is called.

But here’s the thing.

When you read through the ancient stories of Jesus, you notice something striking.

He never seems to be in a hurry.

He’s constantly walking from one town to another, sure. He has places to go.

But he is always, always getting interrupted.

By a woman reaching out in a crowded street.

By a blind man calling out from the dusty side of the road.

By people lowering their friend through a roof right in the middle of his teaching.

And for Jesus, the interruption isn’t a distraction from the work.

The interruption is the work.

He understood something that we so often forget in our hyper-connected, deeply exhausted world.

The divine isn’t just found at the destination.

It’s found in the dust of the journey.

What if we’re missing the profound because we’re too focused on waiting for the spectacular?

We look for God in the earthquake, the wind, and the fire. We look for Him in the grand milestones and the mountaintop experiences.

But God is remarkably comfortable in the ordinary.

In the quiet whisper.

In the breaking of bread around a messy table.

In the face of the person sitting across from you right now.

Grace isn’t something you have to sprint to catch up with.

It’s the air you’re already breathing.

So, take a breath.

Look around.

You don’t have to be anywhere else, or anyone else, to encounter the holy today.

It’s right here.


Three Questions to Ponder:

  1. Where in your life are you currently treating the present moment like a waiting room for the future?
  2. If you truly believed the mundane ground you are standing on right now is holy, what would change about how you move through your day today?
  3. Who or what is “interrupting” you lately, and how might God be gently inviting you to see that very interruption as the actual work you are called to?

Grace & Peace,
-Pastor Scott.

What Happens When Nothing Happens

We hate waiting.

We just do.

We have apps to skip the line. We have shipping that gets it to our front door by tomorrow morning. We want the answer, the fix, the breakthrough, the clarity, the open door.

And we want it right now.

Because to us, waiting feels like a glitch in the system. We tend to think of waiting as a gap. A void. An empty, useless space between where we are and where we actually want to be.

Like a waiting room. You just sit there. Staring at a five-year-old magazine. Doing absolutely nothing.

But what if spiritual waiting isn’t passive?

What if waiting on the Lord isn’t a delay in your story… what if it’s a crucial chapter of your story?

What if it is the most profoundly active thing you could possibly do?

See, when the scriptures talk about waiting on the Lord, it’s not about twiddling your thumbs. It’s not about spiritual resignation. It’s about tension.

Think of a seed buried deep in the dark, heavy dirt. From the outside, it looks like nothing is happening. It looks abandoned. It feels like the gardener forgot all about it.

But beneath the surface? Everything is happening.

The shell is breaking. Roots are desperately reaching and digging deep into the soil. True, sustainable growth is occurring. You cannot get the massive, unshakeable oak tree without the dark, quiet, excruciatingly slow work of the seed in the dirt.

It’s in the waiting that our false idols are slowly stripped away. It’s in the waiting that we realize we aren’t actually in control. (And man, we love pretending we are in control, don’t we?) It’s in the waiting that our faith stops being a neat little transaction with the Divine—”I do this for you, God, so you give me that”—and starts becoming a real, breathing relationship.

We finally discover that God isn’t a vending machine. He is a presence.

And sometimes, the greatest, most profound gift He can possibly give us is the uncomfortable silence that forces us to stop talking, stop rushing, and start listening for His heartbeat.

The discipline of waiting isn’t about ignoring reality; it’s about anchoring yourself so deeply in the goodness of God that the rushing world around you loses its grip on your soul. It’s active trust. It’s rebellious hope.

So, if you find yourself in the waiting room right now—frustrated, tired, wondering if God lost your file—I want to invite you to stop trying to escape the wait, and start leaning into it.

Because the soil is doing its work.

As you go about your week, I want to leave you with three questions to chew on. Let these sit with you. Ponder them:

1. In your moments of profound discouragement: When you’re exhausted and ready to throw in the towel, what if this divine delay isn’t a punishment, but a deliberate setup to build a deeper, more resilient reliance on His strength rather than your own?

2. In your season of endless searching: When you are desperately looking for the next right answer, are you willing to sit in the uncomfortable, quiet mystery of “I don’t know yet” and trust that God’s presence is enough for today?

3. In your messy time of transition: In that terrifying, beautiful space between what was and what will be, how can you actively tend to the soil of your soul today, instead of just frantically rushing toward tomorrow?

Something more to ponder today.

-Grace & Peace,
Pastor Scott.

The Danger of Comfort and the Need to Lean In.

Picture a classroom.

Maybe you’re in seventh grade. Maybe you’re in a crowded seminary lecture hall. The teacher is talking. The fluorescent lights are buzzing. And you are… somewhere else.

You’re doodling in the margins of your notebook. You’re thinking about lunch. You’re staring out the window, watching the clouds drift by. The words washing over you are just noise. It’s a comfortable, predictable, safe drone.

And then. It happens.

The teacher says your name.

What happens to your body in that exact fraction of a second? Your spine stiffens. Your eyes snap to the front of the room. You literally, physically, shift your weight.

You lean in.

Because suddenly, the lecture isn’t abstract anymore. It isn’t just noise. It’s highly personal, and it demands your immediate attention.

That comfortable drone? That slow, subtle lulling to sleep? That’s exactly what happens to us in ministry.

You’ve been doing this for a while. You know how the meetings run. You know which songs get the congregation moving, which sermon structures get the nods, how to balance the budget, and how to keep the machine humming.

The machine is safe. The machine is predictable. And let’s be honest: the machine is incredibly comfortable.

But here’s the thing about the machine. It doesn’t have a pulse.

We start out in ministry completely leaned in. We are wide awake to the calling. But over time, the wear and tear of the job takes its toll. People are messy. People are unpredictable. People will break your heart, and they will exhaust you, and they will ask questions you don’t have the answers to.

So, what do we do?

We build structures. We retreat to our offices. We dive into the thick theology books. We spend hours tweaking the graphics for the new sermon series. We step back into the spaces we are used to, the spaces where we are the experts, where we are insulated and in control.

Because leaning out is easy. Leaning back is safe.

But out there in the mess, our name is being called.

God is speaking through the unraveling marriage in your congregation. He is speaking through the doubting young adult sitting in the back row. He is calling your name through the marginalized family in your neighborhood who just needs someone to show up.

When we retreat to the comfortable spaces, we stop hearing our name. We start managing instead of ministering. We start preserving instead of pioneering.

Think about the life of Jesus. He didn’t spend a lot of time in the comfortable, predictable spaces. He didn’t build a machine and manage it from a corner office.

John 1:14 says, “The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us.” He didn’t shout instructions from the safety of the heavens. He moved into the neighborhood. He got dirt under his fingernails. He crashed dinner parties with the wrong kind of people (Mark 2:15).

And he was constantly calling names. He didn’t just wave at Zacchaeus in the tree; he stopped, called him by name, and invited himself into the mess of a despised tax collector’s home (Luke 19:5). He saw Mary weeping at the tomb, blinded by her grief, and the thing that finally broke through the noise wasn’t a theological explanation. It was him, simply saying her name: “Mary” (John 20:16).

He leaned in. And he asks us to do the same.

The heart of ministry isn’t found in the green room. It isn’t found in the flawless, down-to-the-minute execution of a Sunday morning service.

It’s found in the living room. It’s found in the hospital waiting area. It’s found in the quiet, desperate, heavy moments where all you have to offer is your presence.

When we get comfortable, we miss the miracle. We miss the moment the lights finally come on in someone’s eyes. We miss the raw, beautiful redemption of a shattered life being put back together. We miss the very heartbeat of the Divine.

So, here is the invitation.

Listen closely. Through the hum of the church machinery, your name is being called.

How will you respond?


Questions to Consider:

  • Where are your “safe spaces”? What are the tasks, rooms, or routines you retreat to when the messy reality of people becomes too overwhelming?
  • Who is currently “calling your name”? Is there a specific person or situation in your church or community that you have been actively avoiding because it requires you to step out of your comfort zone?
  • When was the last time you felt the “jolt”? Think back to a recent moment in ministry where you were suddenly, acutely aware that God was using you in a raw, unscripted way. How can you posture yourself to experience that more often?
  • Are you managing a machine, or ministering to a movement? If you stripped away the lights, the budget, and the Sunday morning production, what would be left of your ministry?

Step out of the office. Leave the safety of the well-worn path.

Will it be hard? Yes. Will it break your heart? Almost certainly.

But hear your name. Shift your weight. Lean in.

The Grace Expert & The Eight Year Secret.

The news about Philip Yancey is the kind of thing that makes you set your coffee down and just stare out the window for a while.

If you’ve spent any time in the “thinking” corners of the church, Yancey has probably been a companion of yours. His books—What’s So Amazing About Grace? and The Jesus I Never Knew—weren’t just bestsellers; they were lifelines. He was the guy who gave us permission to admit that faith is often a mess of doubt and shadow. He made grace feel like something sturdy enough to hold our weight.

And now, we’re processing this: an eight-year affair. With a married woman. All while he was the face of modern Christian grace, writing the books and speaking at the conferences. He came forward himself, stepped down, and admitted he had “disqualified” himself.

It’s a gut-punch. Not because we’re naive enough to think Christian leaders don’t fail—we know better by now—but because of the specific nature of this failure. It forces a terrifying question: How does someone spend nearly a decade describing the heart of God while their own heart is miles away?

The Art of the Split Life

History is littered with this kind of thing. King David wrote the most beautiful poetry in the Bible while his hands were literally stained with the blood of a man he had murdered to cover an affair. Peter preached the gospel after denying he even knew Jesus.

But Yancey’s situation feels like a very modern, very quiet tragedy. Eight years isn’t a “moment of weakness” or a one-time lapse in judgment. It’s thousands of small, daily choices to live a double life. It’s a sustained effort to keep the “Public Grace Expert” and the “Private Transgressor” from ever meeting in the same room.

It makes you wonder about the words he wrote during those eight years. Were they hollow? Or were they something more tragic—a cry for help from a man who knew the truth of grace but felt he had drifted too far out to actually touch it?

The Myth of Compartmentalization

We like to think we can keep our lives in separate boxes. We tell ourselves, “This secret part of me doesn’t affect my work for God.” But the soul doesn’t work that way. When we live in contradiction, something begins to atrophie.

In church circles, we talk about accountability and integrity so much that the words have lost their teeth. We’ve turned accountability into a polite “how are you doing?” over lunch. But real integrity isn’t about being perfect; it’s about alignment. It’s making sure the person people see on the stage is the same person sitting alone in a hotel room.

When that alignment snaps, we start performing. We use the right “Christianese,” we hit the right emotional notes in our prayers, and we learn how to fake the glow of a spiritual life that has actually gone cold on the inside.

The Quiet Creep of Atrophy

Spiritual decay doesn’t usually happen overnight. It’s a slow, subtle erosion.

  • It starts when you’re “too busy” for your own soul because you’re doing “the Lord’s work.”
  • It grows when you justify a small compromise because, hey, look at all the good you’re doing.
  • It solidifies when you realize you’re good at pretending—and that everyone believes the act.

Eventually, you aren’t living a faith; you’re managing a brand. You become a professional at describing a God you no longer talk to in private. That is the real danger of ministry: you can become so familiar with the language of God that you lose the fear of Him.

Where Does This Leave Us?

The “good” news—if we can call it that—is that Yancey chose to stop the clock. He chose to step into the light, however late, and own the wreckage. That is an act of integrity, even if it’s the final, painful act of a career.

But his story should be a mirror for the rest of us. It’s a warning not to wait for the “big fall.” It’s a call to look at the gaps in our own lives—the places where we are pretending, the secrets we’re guarding, and the ways we’ve let our public persona outpace our private character.

Grace is big enough for Philip Yancey. It’s big enough for the woman involved. And it’s big enough for us. But grace is never an excuse to stay in the dark; it’s the power that allows us to finally come clean.

Let’s stop posing and start being honest. Because a broken person who is honest is much more useful to God than a “godly” person who is lying.

Grace, Peace & Accountability
-Pastor Scott.

The Threshold of 2026: What if we stopped “Fixing”?

We’re standing on it again. That invisible line.

One second it’s 11:59 p.m. on December 31, 2025, and the next, we’ve crossed over into 2026. We act like the air changes, don’t we? Like the molecules of the universe suddenly rearranged themselves because a calendar page turned.

We call them “Resolutions.” But if you look at that word—resolution—it’s about finding a solution. It implies that you, as you are right now, are a problem to be solved. A leak to be plugged. A glitch in the system that needs a software update.

But what if 2026 isn’t about “fixing” the old you?

What if the “New Year” isn’t a demand for a better version of yourself, but an invitation to finally meet the real one?
I’ve met so many people in my life, and I don’t want to sound judgmental, but I can automatically tell when someone is simply putting on a mask and living a fake life for others to see. Sometimes people do this to impress others, while some pretend instead of live a real life because they fear what people might think if they ACTUALLY ‘let their hair down’.

But what would happen in 2026 if we all just stopped pretending, and started living our lives with authenticity without fear of judgement?

The Rhythm of the New

In the Hebrew scriptures, there’s this beautiful, recurring idea that God is “doing a new thing.” But “new” in the biblical sense isn’t usually about replacement. It’s about renewal. It’s like a tree in winter. It looks dead. It looks stagnant. But deep in the soil, in the dark, silent places where no one is taking selfies or posting updates, something is shifting.

The tree isn’t trying to be a different tree in the spring. It’s just becoming more of what it already is.

So, as we stare down the barrel of 2026, I have some questions. Not the “How much weight do you want to lose?” kind of questions. The other kind. The kind that sit in the pit of your stomach:

  • What are you carrying into this year that isn’t actually yours to carry? Is it a parent’s expectation? A former version of yourself that you outgrew three years ago? A shame that has already been forgiven but you keep in your pocket like a lucky charm?
  • What would happen if you stopped trying to “arrive”? We spend so much energy trying to get somewhere else. To the next job, the next relationship, the next tax bracket. But what if the Divine is actually in the here? What if the burning bush is right in your backyard, but you’re too busy looking at a map of a different forest?
  • Where is the “New” already happening? Look at your life. Not the big, flashy stuff. Look at the small, quiet pulses of grace. The friend who actually listens. The way the light hits the floor at 4:00 p.m. The fact that you’re still breathing.

The Sacred Middle

2026 will have its share of mess. We know this. There will be moments of stress, anxiety, problems – and much more. There will be moments where you feel like you’re failing at everything. I don’t want to dismiss that these kinds of events will most likely happen to us all in 2026.

But the Gospel—the “Good News”—isn’t that life becomes a straight line of success. It’s that even in the mess, even in the “not-yet-resolved” parts of our lives, there is a Presence. A “With-ness.”

Jesus didn’t say, “I have come so that you might have a perfectly organized life and a 401k.” He said he came so we might have Life. Abundant, vibrant, messy, holy, complicated Life. Emmanuel = God – with us. God connected to us. God in relationship with us every. step. of. the. way. (full stop, no flimsy/flip-flopping decisions – He’s all-in with your life! He’s fully invested in YOU!)

A Pondering for the Road

As you step across that threshold into 2026, maybe skip the “To-Do” list for a minute. Try a “To-Be” list.

  • To be… present.
  • To be… kind to yourself when you stumble.
  • To be… open to the idea that God likes you exactly as you are, even as He invites you into who you are becoming.

The calendar is turning tomorrow at 11:59pm.
The sun will rise. And the Spirit is already there, whispering, “Let’s see what we can make of this together.”

Grace and Peace to you in 2026.
-Pastor Scott.

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